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Endolymphatic Sac Surgery – Recovery Day 2 – 3

On By WendyIn Chronic Illness, Meniere's Disease11 Comments

Yesterday I woke with much more swelling and pain.  Still no vertigo. But started getting pretty dizzy, after taking pain meds.  There is such a fine line between taking enough so I can tolerate the pain, and taking too much to cause vertigo.  Often the  vertigo will come before the pain is under control.  I really hate having to take pain medication.  They make me feel drunk, and getting drunk when you have vertigo issues is not a good idea.

Had a great visit with a couple of friends last night.  It was so good to see them, I haven’t seen them in a long time, but we keep up regularly through instant messaging and email.  When they first got here, I was feeling pretty rough, I wasn’t sure I was going to be able to really enjoy the visit.  But I knew these friends would understand.

When they first arrived I had a little bite to eat and took a pain pill, my first in about 9 hours.  (I was really very hesitant after the way I was feeling that morning.  I do not like the drunk feeling.)  Luckily, the pain got better, and the visit was very nice!  Plus, my friend brought me a bunch of clothes to try.  (as I think I’ve mentioned before, I’ve gained a ton of weight this year, and I just don’t have anything to wear.)  I haven’t been able to go through them yet, but I’m just thrilled I will have something to wear that doesn’t feel way too tight.

I had a rough time going to sleep,  but seemed to sleep better once I finally drifted off.

Then I woke up this morning…what a difference.  I started to lift my head to get up to go to the bathroom, and the world started moving.  I put my head back down, things calmed, and I tried again…same results.  I decided to wake up Stuart to have him help me to the bathroom.  Again, I tried to get up, with his help this time, but the world went crazy!!!  I laid back down, and things still were spinning out of control!  Thankfully, it didn’t last long, but every time I tried to lift my head the same thing would happen.  I don’t know how we managed it but we finally got me to the bathroom…ahh…relief.  Getting back to the bed was rough, but once I was lying down again, things were much more stable.

The swelling around my ear was worse, but no fever,  no redness, and it’s not hot to the touch.  Thank goodness.

I decided to lay with my left ear down, to see if having the fluid drain some would help.  I could hear it gurgle, and feel it, but very little came out.  I slept for a while.  Then I had to go to the bathroom again.  Ugh.  I tried and tried, and finally I decided it could wait.  I feel asleep again.  Stuart decided to call the ENT on call at Duke, just to make sure this swelling issue wasn’t something to be concerned about.  She said, she thinks it’s just post-op swelling, she suggested ice at first, but we found out fast last time, ice on an open hole to the vestibular system is not a good idea. (Instant Vertigo!)  She also suggested elevating my head.  We slowly did this, first we got a thicker pillow, then added a pillow under my back (so my neck wouldn’t be at a severe angle), then added another pillow…now I’m at a slight incline, and the swelling has gone down quite a bit.  I’m still having bouts of spinning, and sharp pains shooting through my head.  Today has not been a great day.

This is so different from the first surgery.  I didn’t have this severe swelling.  (It has been swollen all around my ear, down my neck, sticking out about an inch.)  My ear drained well the first time.  I had a tube in my right ear, and it drained a lot.  I also have a tube in the left ear, and I know it’s open because I sneezed yesterday and felt the rush of air blow through it, but very minimal drainage.  I keep feeling fluid moving around in my ear, but only a very tiny amount is coming out.  I did have some very red blood come out this morning, not a lot, but it’s not that clear gooey discharge I had the first time.  I keep thinking, if my ear would just drain out, then I’d feel better.

The pain from the first surgery was much more intense after the feeling in my ear came back.  The damage to the cartilage was intense.   Question now is, if I’m this bad off now, what’s it going to be like when the feeling in the ear comes back?

I’ve started writing this post about mid-day yesterday, now it’s late Sunday night, and I’m just wrapping it up.

To sum things up, I feel horrible.  Today has been very uncomfortable.  I feel like I’m burning up with fever, but if you take my temperature I’m not.  If I move my head, the world moves….sometimes much, much worse than other times.

(Please forgive me, but I did not reread this post for errors.  I simply don’t feel well enough.  No picture either?  I really must not be feeling like myself.)

Tomorrow I should be posting for the next PFAM blog carnival hosted by Sharon over at Bed, Body and Beyond, submissions are due tomorrow by midnight, in whatever time zone you happen to be in!  (Luckily, I wrote most of my entry before the surgery, so I just have to touch it up a bit.)

The topic?  Why do we write?  Please think about sending in your own submission.  Sharon is great, and if you can’t make it by midnight tomorrow, drop her a line, she can probably give you a little more time.  The carnival will go up on her blog on the 7th.  So check out her call for submissions here: http://sharonwachsler.blogspot.com/2011/10/call-for-subs-pfam-blog-carnival.html

Surgery Over – Day 1 recovery

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Getting ready to go home, after a long day!

Surgery went well.  I had an Endolymphatic Sac Enhancement Surgery.  After much searching, I found that different doctors do different surgeries and call it the same thing.  Basically had a Mastoidectomy.  (surgical removal of the mastoid process) with extra stuff.  Dr. Kaylie removes more bone so the sac can decompress (on its own) and will have more room to expand.  Leaving the endolymphatic sac and dura with no bone covering it.  However, most of this is under your ear, so it’s pretty protected.

Hopefully, this surgery will stop 70% – 90% of the vertigo caused by this ear.  I had this surgery on my right ear in April of 2010, it appeared to work.  But since I’m bilateral, sometimes it was hard to tell if my vertigo attacks were caused by my right or left ear.  Sometimes I could really tell, but since my hearing has diminished so much, and the tinnitus has gotten so much worse all the time, it makes it harder to distinguish.

I got home about 7:30pm.  Had to be at the hospital at 11:30am, surgery was to begin at 2pm, but it was delayed  until after 3pm because they had to give me a pregnancy test.  I told them there was no way I was pregnant even explained that because of my hip issues, we haven’t had “intercourse” in a very long time.  They asked again, how I could be sure I wasn’t pregnant.  I told them, “let me put it this way, there has not been a penis in my body for months, because of my hip pain, we get creative, but we haven’t had intercourse.  And I haven’t skipped my period.”  (they considered giving me a test anyway, but I peed right before they took me back, and since I hadn’t drunk anything for about 14 hours, there wasn’t any to come out.)  The nurses accepted this, but come to find out, if you are of child-bearing years you must have this test, hospital policy.  So I squeezed out some urine for them….and we waited….and waited for the lab to do the test.  So that delayed the surgery, luckily I was his last for the day so it didn’t put anyone behind.

When they decided I just had to have this test, Stuart joked, “Well, if you are giving birth to the messiah we want to make sure we don’t cause him to have birth defects.”  Only, Stuart would come up with that one!

Before leaving the hospital they did have my pain under control, but I was hurting quite a bit shortly after we got home.  I was sick to my stomach, (lot’s of anti-nausea medication), and pretty dizzy.  I slept some, but I woke a lot because of the pain.  I don’t think I took enough pain medication until about 4am.  Finally, it started to work.  I’d wake up in a few hours, and take half of a pain pill, this seems to have kept things under control.  One thing that was odd, I had this horrible taste in my mouth I just couldn’t get rid of.  Tasted like plastic and medicine.  I swear I tasted that same taste as they were putting me under.  I don’t remember this ever happening before.  It was gross.  I’m also having some crazy post nasal drip, and a cough.  Of course, my throat is sore from the breathing tube, but it’s better today too.

That big cup they put on my ear, filled with gauze and stuff, I swear it causes more pain than the actual surgery.  There was too much gauze and it pressed on my ear.  When you have a hole drilled in your head about the size of a 50 cent piece, you don’t really want to feel something pressing on it.  Thankfully, we got to take it off today, I removed all the stuff from inside, ewww, and just put a little packing back in, now it feels better, and I can sleep with out the worry of rolling over on that ear.  They said I could just take it off, but the ear will drain for some time.

I have a tube in that ear, so the drainage comes out the ear a lot.  This is actually an advantage.  My Eustachian tube is very sore, so I know it’s handling a lot of drainage too.  If I didn’t have the tube I think I’d have a much harder time with vertigo and pain.

My main nurse during pre-op, Janice, was amazing.  She was so caring, compassionate, and professional all at the same time.  She looked pained to hear what I had been going through.  I told her one of my mottos, “Life isn’t what I expected, so I’m just changing my expectations”.  I didn’t say this to be profound our anything, I said it to let her know, I’m OK with things.  Yeah, it’s hard, not what I expected, but I’ll make the most of what I have.  She was really stuck by this.  She said everyone could learn from that, so many people get caught up in the what if’s and can’t get past it to see what they still can be.  Right before I went back, she patted me on the arm, wished me the best, and said that she was going to remember to change her expectations as things change.

I was so humbled, and touched.

They had a hard time getting in an IV, one nurse tried, and even though she gave me lidocaine, it really hurt and it wouldn’t go all the way in.  Janice came in and took over, she had a hard time finding a vein, I remember telling her, I wished I could help.  She told me I was such a good patient.  She soon found a vein, and I didn’t even feel her stick me!  Amazing.   (about IV’s, I had another one in my other arm when I work from the surgery…wonder why?  I’m very glad I was out for that one, it was inside my wrist, a very painful place to get an IV.)

Everyone was very nice to me, and very professional, but Janice was exceptional.

Now, I’m getting tired, and a bit nauseous.  I’m thinking all this drainage, and post nasal drip, is making me sick to my stomach.

think I will take a nap.

For now, all is well…I may be posting a lot during my recovery.  I want to keep up with all my symptoms, so I may get a bit boring.  I thought of keeping a written journal of it, or on my calendar, but I know I’m much more likely to come here, and talk.

Thank you all for so much support!  You cannot imagine how much it means to me.

Helping Symptoms with Hypnosis

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Hypnotic Healing by Judith Westerfield - image stolen from her website.

I asked my friend Judy from Creativity to the Max if she thought some of her Hypnotic Healing CD’s could help me calm down during an attack.  I’ve been trying chanting and visualization techniques, which seemed to help a little, but I wanted more!!  : )

To give a little background, so you don’t think I just asked some quack about hypnosis tapes.  Judith Westerfield is a licensed Marriage, Family Therapist, and Certified Clinical Hypnosis and Guide Imagery Therapist.  You can read more about her here: http://judithwesterfield.wordpress.com/judy-judith/

She was kind enough to send me 3 CD’s to see if they would work for me.  I’m very pleased to say they help a lot.  Whenever I start to feel the anxiety building, and the fear that an attack is imminent, I take my meds, and hook my hearing aid up to the computer so I can hear Judith’s CD’s.

Since I started doing this, my attacks have been much milder, even on the day last week when I was spinning, full out rotational vertigo watching the room just spin.  It wasn’t as bad.  I didn’t even throw up, a miracle in itself.  I don’t know if the not throwing up part can be contributed to the CD, we were pumping in a lot of Phenergan, but I know the CD really helped me stay calm, focused, and relaxed.  Yes, I said relaxed.  (as relaxed as you can be with the world moving all around you.  But I have to say, I was more relaxed than I have been during a vertigo attack.)

The three CD’s she sent were Healing Your Body – Healing Waters, Heart to Heart with Love, and How to Listen so your Symptoms will Talk – How to Talk so your Symptoms will Listen.  I have found the Body, and Love CD’s to be invaluable.   I’m having trouble talking with my symptoms, I think deep inside, I don’t want to talk to or listen to them.  I just want them to go away, and I know they won’t so I don’t want to talk to them   I think of them more like an unwanted guest you just ignore so they will go away.  I need to work on that.

My favorite is Healing Your Body – Healing Waters.  I love to use water as a relaxation guide.  Another of my dearest friends would say it’s because my astrological sign is Cancer, a water sign.  I can just hear her, “Of course, you need water around you!  Let it feed your soul, you need it.”  (I love you Kym)  The sound of water makes me feel tranquil.  I’m simply more at peace when I’m close to water.  So having a visual guide that centers around water, has been very helpful for me.   The Heart to Heart with Love CD, is helping me learn more compassion for myself and others.  I need to love myself, as I do others.  I can’t continue to criticize myself for being ill, and not being able to do things.  I would never allow anyone to say those things about a friend of mine, why would I tolerate me saying it about myself?

The CD’s are meant to be listened to often, in a quiet place, a type of meditative feel.  I do this, but I also just have them on listening when I’m on the computer and or reading.  Even when I’m not concentrating on the words, the calm, soothing nature of the CD reduces my anxiety, and creates an all over sense of well-being.

I talked to my therapist about these, and she thinks they are wonderful.  She has made hypnotic recordings for some of her patients, and is thrilled I’m using this as a tool to help with my anxiety, and be more at ease with my symptoms.

I’ve been looking over the CD’s Judith offers and I want so many of them!  I especially want Healing your Mind, Pain Relief; Transforming Stress and Anxiety into Calm and Comfort, Weight Control, and I really wish I had the Preparing for Surgery CD right now, but my surgery date was scheduled so fast I couldn’t order it and get it in time.  Judith also creates personal CD’s focusing on your own special needs and using your own focal imagery.  I’m seriously thinking about getting her to create one for me.

I’ve listened to some recording that were supposed to heal through self-hypnosis, but they didn’t really work.  I don’t know if it was my mindset at the time, the voice of the person recording it, or if they were just junk.  So, I had my doubts about how well these would work.  I’m very pleasantly surprised.

For more information on Hypnosis and Interactive Guided Imagery(sm) see Judith’s web-site:

www.HypnosistotheMax.com

Yes, I still  have vertigo, I still have symptoms, but finding aids like this have made it easier to deal with them.

As everyone with Meniere’s knows, we may not have attacks every day, but we live with it every day.  Some days the symptoms may be minimal, but the fear is always there, the unknowing….when will it happen next.  Will I be home and safe?  Will I be driving?  Will I fall and get hurt?  Will I be in a crowded area?  How bad with the next attack be?

We live with PTSD (Post Tramatic Stress Disorder).  I have one doctor that describes what we go through as being on the front lines during war.  Soliders knows they will be under fire, at some point, but they never know when.   This is a disease of Random Punishment.  We have to use all the tools we have to keep ourselves sane, and safe.

I found these CD’s and Toni Bernhard’s book How to Be Sick a great help.  They both address my issues, and help me accept and control the situation.  I don’t feel as out of control.  I may not be able to control an attack, but I can control my life around them.  I don’t have to live shell-shocked all the time.

Have you found anything that works for you?  Anything that makes coping with your illness easier?

Please share, we all need to find our “happy place” or at least a happier place some times.  We can all use some help getting there sometimes too.

Thankful for Today!

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Drawing by Ayla Probst (10 years old) A surprise gift in the mail for me today.

Today was a good day!

I’m sitting here after a glorious day.  A day most people take for granted.

This week we celebrate Thanksgiving in the US.  It is a time to reflect and be thankful.

Today I am thankful for good days!

Most people wake up in the morning, and simply start their day, without a thought about it.  The first thing I do when I wake up is take stock of how I feel, and decide if I can make it to the bathroom alone or if I need to call for help.  Today I awoke to find myself feeling…good…I mean really good.  This is so unusual lately I was surprised, and very grateful because Stuart wasn’t home.  I got up, did my morning routine, with aw.  As I walked down the stairs I realized I hadn’t been downstairs since last Thursday, and that wasn’t for long.

I had a little to eat and decided to sit out on the back porch and enjoy the sun.  Today was a beautiful day!

Stuart was home soon and surprised to find me outside, and feeling so good.  Not just OK, but good.  I wanted to get out of the house, but wanted to make sure I didn’t over do it again.  We decided to take a drive, but right before we left I started to feel a little off.  Head a bit swimmy, so I decided to take some medication, just in case.  So we jumped in the Bug and put the top down.  We drove to a town near by, stopped at a drive in fast food restaurant, and had a treat.  We came home and I decided I still had some energy to spare, so we cut back the dead flowers, and I cut the herbs I could save after the last frost and hung them to dry.

Stuart went to the mailbox and I was so tickled to find a card from one of my favorite people.  A friend of mine’s daughter, Ayla, she’s 10 years old.  They live in Tucson so I rarely get to see them, but for every occasion she sends me a card, normally with a drawing included.  She knows how much I treasure her drawings.  You can see her drawing at the top of the post.  Yes, that is a penguin in the hot air balloon.  Ayla, loves penguins. Isn’t she the best?

Yes, you are right, it was last Monday that I felt so good.  So what is it about Mondays?  It’s not like my weekends are any different from every other day.  I said to Stuart, “So, am I just going to feel good on Mondays?”  He said, “No, you’ll feel good tomorrow, you have an appointment with Dr. Kaylie, and you’ll feel good on the 5th, you have an appointment with Dr. Gray.”  I just sighed, knowing he was probably right.

Isn’t that often the way?  We can feel like crap for the longest time, then the day we go see the doctor, we feel better.

I hate to even say this, but I kind of wish I would feel bad tomorrow, so my doctor could see what I’m going through.  *cringe*  I know I really shouldn’t say that out loud…or even write it.

Here’s to never taking a good day for granted, and enjoying the small things.

I decided that was enough.  I’m not going to push it.

 

What Makes the World Go Round???

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What makes the world go round, and round, and round…I don’t really care I just want it to stop!  Please…oh please!  (I’m asking very nicely…please.)

Spinning world. Photo Manipulation by W. Holcombe

Since Wednesday I’ve had almost constant vertigo.  On Wednesday, I had two vertigo attacks.  On Thursday morning, I woke up about 6:30am spinning.  I was dreaming, and in my dream things started to spin, I woke up and it was still spinning, not a good way to start the day!  On Friday, I had a very severe headache with vertigo for most of the day.  Today, I woke up around 8:30am, again, spinning.

This has been a turbulent week.  Luckily, most of these attacks weren’t the gut retching kind.  Most of the time, I’ve just had to keep my head very still, and things were bearable,  but if I move, even fractionally, the world spins.  Today, it has lasted all day.  For the first 5 hours of the day, the only relief I had was when I laid on my side, with my head very still.  If I moved slightly the world spun out of control.  While lying down it was just a bit wobbly.  Unfortunately, I also had some GI issues today, and those 10 feet from my bed to the toilet were a harrowing experience.  Finally, things have calmed down a bit, but still if I move my head, the world spins.

I see Dr. Kaylie, my Otolaryngologist and Vestibular Specialist,  on Tuesday.  We have to discuss different treatments, including having the endolymphatic enhancement surgery on my left ear, or streptomycin injections (to kill the balance nerve)  I can’t stay like this.  My husband is looking for a new job, he can’t be afraid to leave me alone.  I can’t be terrified to be left alone.  However, it will be hard to undergo an expensive treatment right now.  umm..hubby unemployed, COBRA for insurance.  Not only are the COBRA premiums outrageous, but we still have to pay 30% of any procedure.  I hate that healthcare is so unfair.  When we get our bills from the hospital or doctor, it has the cost, then the deduction because we have Blue Cross, then the amount the insurance covers, then what we pay.  (often just the co-pay, unless it’s something special, like surgery.)  If we were charged the deductible amount, like Blue Cross is, we could pay for it without insurance, the premiums from COBRA are so high, it would cost less if we could pay that way.   Our healthcare system sucks!

A little story about why Stuart and I got married when we did….  Stuart and I were engaged, but we hadn’t set a date.  His mother had breast cancer, she had been in remission, but unfortunately, it returned.  We didn’t want the stress of our wedding making things harder for her.  We wanted to wait until she felt well enough to enjoy it.  Unfortunately, the cancer spread, and she died before feeling better.  (yes, if we had known this was a possibility, we would have gotten married sooner, so she could be there….hind sight.)  The week she died, I found out I’d be losing my health insurance in 3 months.  So we planned a wedding, fast.  We got married on Stuart’s parent’s anniversary.  In a way it was nice that we had something so joyful to plan and think about right after Stuart’s mother’s passing, but in an ideal world, we would have put more time between the two events.

Yes, you could technically say, that Stuart and I got married so that I could have health insurance.   That’s just not right.   We should not have been forced to choose our wedding date based on health insurance.   (It is a big joke in the family though that we are the only people they know who can plan a wedding in less than 3 months for less than $2000!  And it was a nice wedding too.  Small, but very beautiful, and very, very special.)  Perhaps I’ll tell that whole story at some point.  My point right now is that NO ONE should have to do without health care because they don’t have health insurance.  I wonder how many people get married so their spouse can have insurance?  Or how many people stay in a job they hate so they or their family will have health insurance?  The priorities of our government is just so skewed.

*Jumping off of my soapbox now*

I have a big request for any of you who have to go through these attacks alone:  Please give me any tips you have on how you do it?  I’ve done it in the past, but I used to have clues that an attack was coming, so I could get prepared.  Wet cloth, empty buckets (or at least to the toilet)….  Now it happens very suddenly, no warning!  Bam, I’m spinning.  Today I had the hardest time just reaching in my night stand to get my medicine.  So, any advice?  How do you do this alone?

Oh, What a Day!

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by Wendy Holcombe (created on Photoshop)

Today was absolutely beautiful, and I woke up without a headache…(meaning a little bit of a headache, like normal, but no where near like I’ve been having lately…yes, I always have a headache, sometimes it’s just much, much worse than other days.)

The weather was gorgeous, in the low 70’s (F), with a slight breeze.  The leaves are starting to fall off the trees.  I took my lunch out on the back porch and enjoyed the sun and warmth.  There was a gust of wind and a flurry of leaves blew over head, it reminded me of a scene from Winnie the Pooh’s Blustery Day, however, my day was not that blustery.  I had a giggle.

We decided since I was having such a good day, we would go somewhere.  We went to the little mall near our place, and bought Stuart 2 new ties for him to wear to interviews.  They are a bit bold, and show more of his personality.  I think they show confidence!  I hope the people he interviews with also thinks so.  (today was Stuart’s last day of work, just a couple of hours really, turned in his computer and told them where he left off.  The owner said he felt so bad, but he had realized if they had one bad month they would be in trouble.  They have decided to put the project Stuart was working on, on hold…so no reason for Stuart to be there.  Stuart is so great about it.  I think it’s the Buddhist in him, I’m not as philosophical…but I’m trying.)

Today, we didn’t think too much about that!  We walked the mall, window shopping.  Then we needed to go by Wal-Mart to pick up a couple of things, yes, I don’t really like shopping at Wal-Mart either but it’s 1 mile from our house, so convenience sometimes wins.  Unfortunately, I really used up most my energy in the mall, and shouldn’t have gone to Wal-Mart.  We stayed there much longer than I should have.  By the time I got home, things were spinning a bit, especially if I moved my head too fast.  I bent down to feel the dog, and the world when Whoosh!  I’ve been lying down since then.

I had a great day!  Lived it to the fullest.  (yes, going to the store is living it up for me.)  However, I really need to learn where my cut off point is.  I push myself beyond my limit way too often.  If I feel good, I take advantage of it.  Hopefully, I won’t be paying for it tomorrow.

Right now, my hip hurts, my back hurts, my tail bone hurts, my head is starting to hurt (worse), and I’m very off-balance.  Think I over did it?  Yeah, me too.

So how do you learn what’s enough?  Often I don’t feel that tired, or hurt that much, until I stop.  Do you know what your limits are?

With the holidays coming up, I really need to figure this out.  Right now, I’m thinking, we won’t be going to any parties.  We may try to have a few people over to our house  We think it would be better in my controlled environment, I can go lie down if I need to.  Or I can get away from noise if I need to.

Thanks for any advice.

Think I’ll be posting more about how to handle the holidays soon.

I give already!

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image by sodahead.com

There are a few things I just give up about right now.

1 – trying to do this months blogging challenge…not going to happen.  Blogging every day right now, too much stress to think about it.  Even trying to write posts in advance for them to come out on the right day…it’s too much.  Plus, I don’t see the point, why was I trying to do this again?  To say, yes I accomplished this?  Is it reaching more people?  I haven’t had any comments from new people.  I have noticed I’m getting more Spam.  I’ve been spending so much time trying to keep up with my writing, I haven’t had the time to read other people’s post.  I’d rather spend my time keeping up with my friends.

2 – trying to lose weight.  Yeah, I feel like I gave this up months ago, and probably did, but while I’m feeling this crappy, and so much of my nutrition is going right through me or coming back up…I’m not going to be too weight conscious.  (however, every time I look in the mirror I think…who is this fat person? *sigh*)

Look at the pictures below, one was taken January 2010, the other was taken July 20th, 2011.  See how much fuller my face is?  And I’ve gained weight since the latest picture was taken.  (you do not want to see the rest of my body…I’ve gone from a size 8 to a size 16.)  *sigh again*  But how do you lose weight while lying in bed, and can’t cook?   Plus I have this little thing that keeps whispering in my head..”if you eat something you’ll feel better.”  How do I get rid of that?

I know, many of you will say, there isn’t much difference, but in the photo taken in July, I was trying to not show how large I am.  I had my head tilted up, to take away my double chin, I had my hair partially on my face…on the left I weight 147lbs. on the right I weighed about 182lbs.  I now weight 190lbs.  The heaviest I’ve ever been.  *I literally sighed again*

Picture of me taken January 2010
Photo of me taken July 2011

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

3 – who ever is holding this vertigo, and headache pain over me…I just want to say…I give up!  What ever you want, I give!  Just please stop.  (Don’t worry my friends, I’m OK, I know it’s just my lot in life right now, a season some might say, it’ll pass, I’ll make sure of it.)   I’m learning so much about me, friends, chronic illnesses… I’ve decided to take this time that I’m feeling crappy to just reflect, and reevaluate what is most important to me and possibly change my priorities.)  One thing I know for sure, I want to live every day I feel better to the fullest!  Live in the moment!

4 – I give up on trying to go to parties, or noisy restaurants, or any place that’s noisy.  Let’s just say, I give up on trying to hear in noisy situations, and getting so frustrated, and feeling so isolated because of it.  One on One, or Small Groups are better anyway.

Now for an update on how I’m feeling:

Since Wednesday I’ve had a constant feeling of vertigo…no not the major throwing my guts up attack kind, but every time I move my head…Whoosh!  And if I close my eyes it feels like I’m moving.  Sleep has been very hard.  But I did get a few hours last night.  If my head would stop hurting I’d probably be able to get more.  My head, oh my aching head!  My head hurts so much.  My neck hurts.  It’s hard to turn my head…that’s probably a good thing since it makes me dizzy, but it hurts.  (Oh, did I mention it hurts??!!  And nothing I’ve taken for it touches the pain.)

I’m having a lot of GI distress for the past few days too.  If I were running a fever I’d swear I had the flu…at least I’m not that achy.  (except, did I mention my head and neck really hurt?  ….  yeah, I guess I did.)

I finally realized exactly what was so very different from this past attack than previous ones (yes a few things were different, but I think this is pretty strange.)  Normally my vertigo spins clockwise, this time I was spinning counter-clockwise.  I remember distinctly how the TV was falling to the left, and the vent on the ceiling was moving to the left.  Isn’t that strange?  I know it probably doesn’t mean anything, I just thought it was strange.

Anyone else notice how they spin?  Clockwise or Counterclockwise.  I have a friend with Ramsey Hunt Syndrome and she told me she always spins counterclockwise.  (but, I don’ t think she has extreme vertigo attacks like those of us with Meniere’s…but I’m not sure, I’ll have to ask again.  However, we all know, even minor vertigo can cause great distress.)

To conclude, many people say to never give up, but when you have a chronic illness you have to realize there are things you simply need to give up.  Things are different now.  I used to have a very hard time telling people “No”, now I often say “maybe”, and often I have to say “no”.  I must decide, is it worth the consequences.  Will I feel worse afterward?  Will I feel isolated because I can’t hear?  Will I be in a safe place if I have an attack? There are many things to think about now, I can’t just say, “sure, I’ll do that”.  I have to do what is best for me physically, and mentally.  (as some may say, I need to really think about how I’ll use my spoons.)

Stress makes most chronic illnesses worse.  Even good stress.  I have to remember that, and choose accordingly.

How has having a Chronic Illness changed your priorities?

 

 

I’m not alone….d*$& it!

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I Am Not Alone. by Wendy Holcombe Nov. 2011

After posting about my attack on Wednesday, I had an outpouring of people who either commented on the post or emailed me personally to tell me I’m not alone.  As comforting as it is to know someone else understands, it’s heartbreaking that there are others who have to go through this too.

I really wish that no one could empathize with me.

One thing about my attacks recently, they don’t last as long as they used to….but it feels like they do.  I’ve had attacks last over 12 hours, the last one lasted over 3, the one before that was less than an hour, yet each felt as if they lasted for an eternity.

Angelea from A Day in the Life with Meniere’s said, “The only thing that keeps me hanging on through an attack is that, at least so far, they eventually end within 8-12 hours.”  I’m the opposite, every time I have an attack, I’m terrified it won’t end.  I know it always has…but what if this time it doesn’t….it’s unimaginable, yet…it fills me with terror.  I’ve read of people having vertigo for extended periods of time.  Weeks, months, years… indefinitely.  Do they always feel like I do during an attack?  How do they live?  Or are they using the word vertigo loosely?  I know it varies in intensity, but all I can think of is the terrifying sensations I get.

Most people who write about their attacks, don’t go into the detail I have.   We all know they are horrible, but somehow I wished for my friends that it wasn’t as bad for them.   I was even a bit surprised when I heard how much so many of you could relate to everything that was happening to me.  (I really wish you couldn’t).  We hear each other say, I had a bad attack complete with throwing up for hours….but we normally don’t talk about the rest.  Thank you all for sharing your stories with me.  People (especially our doctors) really need to understand the torture we go through.  I keep wondering if these specialist we see have ever seen an attack.   Do they just know what they’ve read, or have they ever experienced anything like it?  Or seen a loved one go through it?  (I plan to ask my doctor the next time I see him.)

I emailed my doctors.  I heard from Dr. Gray already, and unfortunately she is also thinks that although I’ve had some good results with the patching, the results to not stay sustained, and this does not look to be a long-term solution.  That was hard to hear, even though I already knew it in my heart.  We’re waiting to see what Dr. Kaylie thinks my next move should be.  I had good success from the endolymphatic sac surgery on my right ear.  I’m almost positive that the majority, if not all, of my attacks since I had the surgery have been from my left ear.  So that is a consideration.  It’s a rough surgery, and recovery is hard.  From what I’ve heard from two other friends their recovery was much worse than mine.  So I do know there is a chance that it could be worse next time.   However, I haven’t talked to Dr. Kaylie yet, we’ll discuss my options and see what happens.

I’m so confused by all of this though.  I’m not sure if we’ll discontinue trying to keep my cerebrospinal fluid regulated.  I would think that we’d need to do this.  So many questions.

Again, I’m going into this bad time just as the holidays approach.  Last year, I had to wait from early November to late January before I had my second set of patches.  That was some of my darkest time.

I say so often, that I accept this illness, it is a part of me.  But I think a lot of that is what I want to believe.  Today, I broke down and just screamed…”I DON’T WANT THIS TO BE HAPPENING TO ME ANY MORE!”  I thought it was better.  If I could have seen this future in January, I would have spent those months symptom free so differently.  I tried to get my life back, to start a future.  I spent 30 class hours plus many, many hours outside of class, working to become a foster parent.  I started a garden.  I bought a car.  I bought hearing aids.  My life was all falling into place….then it came crashing down.

Now I look back.  If I had known all that I was doing was wasting time.  We won’t be able to foster.  The garden died.  I now have a car I may never be able to drive, and I have a hearing aid that sits in a box because my hearing has deteriorated so much in that ear it’s useless.  ($2000 for 3 months of use, I don’t think that’s a very good bargain.)

So if I could have peeked into the future, I would have told myself to live every symptom free day to the fullest.  Travel.  Spend as much time with friends as possible.  Go, and do the things you can!  Don’t waste a day!  And most of all, don’t plan for the future!

So yeah, I guess today I’m having a pity party.

I keep thinking in January, before the patches, I was contemplating suicide.  I can’t go back to that.  I just can’t.  But if I get to the point where I’m having the horrific attacks multiple times a week…often every day…I can’t say that I won’t fall back into that deep dark hole.

No this disease is not me, I do accept that it is part of me….but when it takes over my life and becomes all of me, that, I can’t accept.

I know, I’m jumping the gun a bit, and have some major issues with regrets right now.  I haven’t given up, and I’ll keep fighting for me.  I’m not fighting the illness (as in not accepting it), but I am fighting for my life.  For some balance.  For some relief.

This post was written as part of NHBPM – 30 health posts in 30 days: http://bit.ly/vU0g9J, and NaBloPoMo.

I was wrong…A Meniere’s Attack.

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I stated at the end of my last post that I thought the patches worked this time, and I was better.  Yes, my hearing is still down, and I’ve been having headaches, but I hadn’t been having vertigo.

That all changed Wednesday.

I woke up feeling like I was catching a cold.  My ears and nose were all stuffy, my throat was scratchy, the tinnitus was a bit loud, and well,  I just didn’t feel good.

I went down stairs and had some breakfast, took my morning meds, and still, just didn’t feel good.  Kind of icky.

I decided to jump on the computer, answer some emails, do a post….  I was in the middle of answering an email when it hit me…the world started to move.  (Sorry Susanna, I promise I’ll finish my email to you soon.)

I’ve described one of my Meniere’s attacks before, however, since this is the month for National Health Bloggers Posting Month, and NaBloPoMo, I thought I’d go over it for anyone who might be reading for the first time.

The last time I told about an attack, someone said it was the most terrifying thing they’d ever read….this attack was worse…much worse.  (fortunately, this time Stuart was close by, so I didn’t have that panic of being alone and not being able to care for myself.  I’m thinking I should do something so I’m prepared if this happens when I’m alone…an emergency kit type of thing….a bucket with, emergency meds, wash cloths….)

As I mentioned I was answering an email, and the world moved….I slumped down on the couch and grabbed for my vial with Valium and Phenergan (for those who might not know, Valium helps control vertigo, and Phenergan is for nausea).  Soon I could tell this was getting worse, so I also had a Phenergan suppository. (They often work faster, and you won’t throw it up.)

It was getting worse, I had the hot flush that’s a tell-tell sign that things are going downhill, fast.  Or, rather, things will probably be coming up soon.

Every time this happens to me it terrifies me.  I’m always afraid it won’t stop.  That I will continue to have this horrible vertigo, forever….  I’m so out of control, and so very, very sick.  If someone wanted to torture someone, just make them go through one of these attacks, I promise I would tell anyone anything they wanted to know.

I couldn’t focus my eyes, I normally try to have a focal point and do stress reduction techniques, but I couldn’t keep the point in focus, and things were getting worse, the vent in the ceiling began to move across the ceiling, the TV was tilting…..  and I had to go to the bathroom, fast!  Not to throw up…if you get my drift.  It was a rough trip to the bathroom, and when I got back, it got worse.  The world started spinning out of control.  All I could do was hang on and ride it out…(that makes it sound much easier than it is…it’s hard…very, very hard.)

I started throwing up.  Each time I wretched, I wet myself.  This is something that has never happened before.  (I have had a little pee come out before, because of the intense pressure from throwing up…but not like this.)  I was lying in a pool of my own urine.  So horrified by what was happening to me, so humiliated.  At one point vomit came out of my nose…if this has ever happened to you..I’m so very sorry.  Oh how it burns, and you can’t get the smell out.

This attack was different from any I’ve had before, things would start to settle down, then they’d start spinning again…about 2 1/2 hours after the start, I feel asleep.  That has always meant that it’s over.  But within minutes I was awake again, with the dry heaves were even worse.  Finally, things stopped spinning after about an hour later.  However, I was still sick to my stomach.  The nausea was horrible, and it burned so bad.  My head hurt so much, but I was afraid to take anything for it, for fear it would make my stomach feel worse.  Again, I had dry heaves, but this was thankfully the last time.  Then the diarrhea came again….and again.  (this does not normally happen, I do often have it at the beginning, but not after the world stops spinning.)

Through out all of this, I was hot, then I was freezing, hot, cold, hot, cold.  I would shiver from cold one moment the next I’d be sweating profusely from the heat.

I rested for a while, absolutely exhausted, but my head hurt so much I couldn’t sleep.  I drank a lot, thinking the headache may be worse because I was dehydrated.  (after all, I’d been throwing up way past the point of anything being in my stomach, and had diarrhea 3 times.)  My head still hurt.  I ate a little…and just rested.  Finally, I felt I could take something for my head, and it helped, but it didn’t go away.  I thought I could finally sleep, then my muscles started to cramp up, my back, my stomach, my whole body had been through so much, my muscles were fighting back.  I just wanted to sleep.  I took a pain pill, and rested.

Again, I’m so very grateful that I had Stuart here to help me.  This was a very scary day, and he was there by my side doing everything he could to make it easier.  It makes me cry just to think about how much he must love me to do these things, and to reassure me over and over that he doesn’t mind….”don’t worry, I’ll clean it up.”  I cry and say I’m sorry, he reassures me…it’s ok, there’s nothing to be sorry about.  I know seeing me like that is also terrifying for him.  He does all he can, but he can’t stop it, we have no control over what is happening, and I’m in so much pain.  The throwing up until all you do is gag and it feels like my body is trying to turn itself inside out through my mouth…it hurts….oh…it hurts.  Instead of showing this, he sits by me and says calming words over and over, like Calm, Peace, Love….the repetition and concentrating on the words, what they mean, it helps.  Sometimes it helps more than other times, but it doesn’t hurt.

Often during these attacks, I think…I just want to die.  I hate my life.  This is not a life.

This time, I started having those thoughts, but I stopped, and kept saying, I accept this part of me.  I still love myself.  I have this disease that randomly punishes me for no reason, but that doesn’t mean I’m bad.   It is a part of me.  It’s not what I am.

I can’t say this would work if I had to go through this every day…or even multiple times a week (like I was doing in December and January).  That was a dark time.  I’d like to think I could handle it better now.  But, I’m just not sure.

So, I guess I was wrong.  The last set of patches may not have worked.  I just don’t know what to think now.  Things were so good after the treatment the end of January, why isn’t it working now?  I need to have a heart to heart with my doctors and see what my choices are.  We may have to reevaluate our plan of action.

This post was written as part if NHBPM – 30 health post in 30 days: http://bit.ly/vU0g93, and is also a part of NaBloPoMo.

What is Between Love and Hate?

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This was actually a prompt on NaBloPoMo in October, I saw it on another’s blog and started to think about it…and realized the answer…Me.

To be more specific, how I feel about me and the things that have been happening to me.

I still love me….but at times I really hate my life.  I know that sounds negative, and I don’t mean that I always feel this way…but sometimes…when I get overwhelmed by the losses, the pain, the vertigo….I hate it.

Such a dichotomy.  Sometimes I feel there are two of me.  There is the person who hates all of this, who just wants everything to return to normal, to be like it used to be.  Then, there is the person, who is grateful (yes, grateful) for all that I have learned, the friends I’ve made, the life I have now.

Yes, I have chronic illnesses, I often wish I didn’t.  However, they don’t define who I am.  I’ve found that some people only think of me in terms of my illnesses now.  That’s sad.  They can’t see the person I still am, or the better person I’ve become.  I do feel I’m a better person now.  Don’t get me wrong, I wasn’t a bad person before, but I feel better about myself now.  I actually have more confidence, feel like I can make a difference in a person’s life, and I’m more appreciative of what I have.

Do I hate my life…sometimes.  But most of the time, no.  My illnesses are a part of me.  It isn’t all bad.  Yes, I have some very bad days.  However, I feel closer to my husband than ever.  I have a great support system.  There is much to be grateful for.

What is between love and hate?  Perhaps, acceptance.  Accepting that the things I hate and the things I love about me can live together in harmony.

This post was written as part if NHBPM – 30 health post in 30 days: http://bit.ly/vU0g93, and is also a part of NaBloPoMo.

P.S. – Update 2 weeks after the last patches.  I think they are working.  The spinning is better.  I have a bit more energy.  Some days are better than others, but over all, I think I’m better.  I have been having migraines, but I really think they are more weather related.  My hearing hasn’t returned, but to live without the spinning, I’ll learn to live with the loss of hearing.