I met someone yesterday who touched my heart, she cleaned my house, but that isn’t what made her special.
Since I’ve been having this flare I haven’t been able to keep up with the house cleaning so we decided to have someone come in to help out. I was looking on the Nextdoor site and saw where a neighbor was asking about a cleaner for her home, several people answered her but one person’s comment struck me more than the rest so I messaged her and asked if she’d be interested in helping us out. Lucky for us, she said yes. That’s how we met Lennie.
After several texts back and forth we set up a date and she came over yesterday. When she came to the door I felt I would like her instantly, and within the first 5 minutes I knew I was right. Her smile lights up her face and she is genuinely warm and friendly. We have a sign in our front yard, I posted a picture of it on here before, it says things like “Love is Love”, “No Human Is Illegal”, “Science Is Real”…. This sign means a lot to me. It says a lot about what I believe in, and who I am. When Lennie came in she mentioned how much she loved our sign, she said she saw it and thought “These are mine kind of people.” I gave her a high five.
We chatted some as she went about her business. She knew from our messages about some of my health issues, but I didn’t know she had a few. Her illness was not supposed to be chronic, but it did have some long term complications. She really understands going through a long ordeal before being diagnosed.
The main thing I really wanted to write about was how she reacted to my hearing loss. When she found out I lost my hearing just a few years ago she first asked the same thing everyone else does, “Do you know sign language?” I wonder why that’s the first thing people ask? You know when you are not immersed in a language it’s hard to become fluent in it, especially at my age. Taking a class when you are fighting vertigo and migraines on a daily basis is almost impossible. Absorbing a foreign language while dealing with those? Well I haven’t been able to do it. But anyway, after we discussed all that, I promise I didn’t say anything rude, she asked me something no one else ever has: “Has losing your hearing been difficult?”
My first instinct was to say “No”, and just brush it off. I started to say that I thought it was more difficult for Stuart, but then I stopped. I looked at her and felt tears well up in my eyes, “Yes, yes, it has been very difficult.”
I was taken aback by the fact that she asked, and genuinely seemed to care. No one has ever asked me that before. I’ve never gotten the impression that anyone has felt that it has been very difficult. I think some people see that I have some challenges, but I don’t think they understand how difficult it is, and I think it would make them uncomfortable if they knew. I think a lot of people think my cochlear implants “fixed” my hearing loss, and others think I’m really good at handling it. Truth of the matter is, it’s extremely difficult, my CIs are far from perfect, and I think I handle it pretty well but that doesn’t mean I always understand what the heck you’re saying or that it’s any less difficult.
Meeting Lennie made me realize that I can still make connections with people in the “real world”. It may still be difficult to nurture a friendship when I can’t drive and may often have to cancel things and I can’t hear in many situations…but Lennie made me want to try.
You never know what kind of mark you may leave on a person, try to make that mark a good one. Look what Lennie has done for me.
(I will try to post about some of the difficulties I have dealing with hearing loss soon.)
6 thoughts on “First Meeting”
Awesome! She sounds like a special woman. 🙂
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I am so happy for you! It’s beyond valuable to make wonderful human connections.
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Oh Wendy! I am so very happy to read that you have found such a lovely soul to help you out around the house. I am sure you will be a blessing to each other.
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Lennie sounds wonderful in so many ways and seems like the kind of person we would all like to meet and have in our lives.
Leannie sounds like a keeper! I went to this stoma care open day last Friday, the first time I’d been out and interacting with people that wasn’t in a supermarket in… I don’t know how long. It was amazing how I started to remember the person I used to be, chatting and making jokes and feeling a little more ‘normal’. As you found, it was a bit of a surprise to be able to make those connections ‘in the real world’ after so long and thinking it wasn’t really possible. Granted, I’m never going to see any of those people again so it’s rather different, but it made me relate a bit to what you’re saying in your post. It’s also amazing how such a seemingly simple, important question to ask – whether losing your hearing has been difficult – hasn’t been asked before now. I wonder if she realises the impact she’s had. I imagine probably not, much like you won’t necessarily realise the positive impact you have on the lives of others either.. ♥
So glad to read you connected with someone in the “real world.”
Lennie seems to be one of those “special” sorts of people who come along — sometimes when we need them the most.