I’m feeling better, at least emotionally, than I did during the last few posts. Thanks to all for putting up with me, and showing me such great compassion.
(I have been in touch with my GYN to see about going back on the pill to see if it will help…we’ll see.)
Now, on to Inspiration.
I saw this beautiful poster on someone’s blog…sorry I can’t remember where. So I wrote to the University of New Hampshire to see if they would mind of I printed it here. They were so nice, and gave me their consent.
The University of New Hampshire has an Institute on Disability, this poster comes from there. They have a lot of great resources, especially if you life in New Hampshire, but even if you don’t, it’s a good place to check out.
The quote by Neil Marcus touched me,
‘Disability is not a “Brave Struggle” or “Courage in the Face of Adversity”. Disability is an Art. It’s an ingenious way to live.’
How many of us feel this way?
How many times have you been told how brave you are? How much courage you have? Do we have a choice?
But the part that really touched me was “Disability is an Art” – Who would ever think that? “It’s an ingenious way to live.” Wow! what a statement!
Take the time to really think about that. We are disabled, we are art. We have an ingenious way to live.
How many people, including ourselves some times, pity us? Think that we can’t live a fulfilled life? This simply is not true. Remember, we are a work of Art! We have a life no one else does, but it’s ours. It’s up to us to make the most of it. Our life may not be what we expected, but it’s ours, and we have a choice on how to live it.
Another quote I saw recently:
“Have respect for yourself, and patience and compassion. With these, you can handle anything.” ~Jack Kornfield
I want to talk about more than just respect, patience, and compassion for ourselves, I want to talk about showing these to everyone.
My husband and I have talked a lot about how people just don’t seem to respect one another. Just imagine, if we showed respect to everyone we met, and they showed respect to you. This simple show of respect could over come nearly every obstacle. No more road rage, no more bullying, no more yelling at customer service, no more wars (yes, I know that’s a big one, but if everyone respected one another, would there really be wars?)
Even when we respect other’s we often forget to respect ourselves. To show patience and compassion to ourselves. My doctors and friends have told me, many times, to “Give yourself a break.” Finally I listened, and life isn’t as hard any more. I don’t have to do everything. I can ask for help. I don’t have to feel guilty because I can’t do something. I can handle anything. The key word there is “handle”, no I may not be able to do everything by myself, but I can find a way to handle the situation.
Look at some of the things I can do: I can make my husband smile, I can create a work of art, I can appreciate the world around me…I notice more now because I’m not in such a hurry. I don’t get impatient if I have to wait at the store. I realize that the person who is trying to help, usually isn’t the one at fault. I notice all the people who keep our infrastructure running, people we just don’t pay that much attention to. Like the sanitation crew…they work hard, in the heat, cold, rain, snow…. but do they get appreciated? Usually, people just get annoyed with them because they have to drive around them, or they get mad because they were late picking up their garbage. Our mail carrier, our pest control person, the road maintenance crew…they are working hard to keep our lives running smoothly…and often they are not respected, or appreciated.
The season of showing thanks and appreciation is fast approaching, but shouldn’t we be doing this all year-long? A note on my garbage can saying, I appreciate you! Can you imagine how much that would surprise someone? I always wave at the road maintenance crew, and they always look surprised. Once after a big storm that knocked out a lot of the power lines, I took out drinks and snacks for the crew in front of our house, just a little something to tell them, I appreciate you. A soldier in an elevator, I simply said thank you, and I saw his face light up.
I’ve recently received cards, and gifts from people I’ve never met. A thank you card for sending someone a cook book, that I was giving away. A set of Walkie Talkies and a card from someone, just because I needed help, and they had something I could use. A card from a friend who went to Disney World, simply because she knows I love Mickey. And most recently a box of goodies from a fellow blogger, just to help me…and to show she was thinking of me. these people will never know just how much these things have meant to me. How they touched me at a time, I really needed it. All of these things came from people I’ve only come to know through blogging. What a wondrous time we live in, that I can make friends all over the world through this little box sitting on my lap.
When things seem their worst, and I want to just give up, I realize just how many people are pulling for me. How many people, look beyond my disability and appreciate me.
At times I forget these things. The fear envelopes me, the guilt strangles me…but the love, respect, patience, and compassion that I have received from others makes me realize, I must give these to myself as well. They nurture me, teach me to take better care of myself, give myself a break, and stand up for myself. It proves to me that I am a work of ART! My life is ingenious!
My point, that may have been lost somewhere in there:
Take the time to think if you showing yourself the respect, patience and compassion you are entitled to. If not, make a conscious effort to be better about it.
I know I am.
5 thoughts on “Inspiration”
Beautiful! All of it. Thanks for sharing your inspiration. I appreciate you and the fact that you take time to encourage all of us. Art comes in many forms, doesn’t it? So does inspiration and gratitude. Perfect…
The best way for me to get out of a funk is to start thinking about the things I’m grateful for. And to try to help someone else.
Nice post : )
Interesting about going back on the pill – let me know how it goes. I have just gone off the pill (well, I was on NeuvaRing most recently). After 11 years on hormonal birth control, I thought it was time for a break from the synthetic hormones – that can only do good things for my health, right? I decided to try a copper IUD, after much research on options. I paid $200 for the device (I don’t have any perscription coverage right now) and after two seperate attampets at the dr to have it placed in my uterus, it was unsuccessful (and caused a lot of discomfort!!). I have an apt for a specialized clinic in Calgary for them to try to get it in… seems like a lot of work! My dr says it is well worth it once it’s in, and I really want to not be on artificial hormones anymore… but it seems like a lot to deal with. Wish me luck!
I too wanted to be off the synthetic hormones, that’s why I went off the pill. But my headaches and mood swings are out of control.
I had an IUD twice before. The first one was a long time ago, and I had an tubular pregnancy and miscarried while on it. but as I said it was a long time ago, they have come a long way since then.
I had one just a few years ago…the copper 7 I think it was called. But it wouldn’t stay in place…and yes, it was VERY painful getting it. Each time I had what my doctor could only call, labor pains. My body didn’t like it at all. But it got used to it…however, it wouldn’t stay in place. It kept sliding down. I was told that someone who has never had children can have trouble with an IUD.
I hope it all goes well with you.
I’m a strange case from what I understand. It should not have hurt that bad. (I have a friend who got one a couple of years ago, and she said it was like getting a pap, and she hasn’t had children) And it’s very rare for them to slip like mine did.
I hope I didn’t scare you
I really hope it works for you.
I really thought going off the pill would be best for my body. I was having pretty much no period while on the pill, I’m 48 years old, I thought I was going through the change…nope, my body is still hanging on.
But this last cycle, just 10 days since the one before…yeah, I can’t have that. And I’m just mean!
let me know how it works out!
Fabulous poster and post! For some reason I am terrible about showing appreciation and yet reflecting and acknowledging what (and especially who) I’m greatful for is really directly connected with feeling joy. Thanks for reminding me!