Guilty Pleasures while having a Chronic Illness

The theme for this edition to the PFAM (Patients For A Moment) blog carnival is Guilty Pleasures.  You can see all the submissions on Sick Momma’s blog starting March 9th.

A Guilty Pleasure is defined as something one enjoys and considers pleasurable despite feeling guilt for enjoying it.

I have a lot that I feel guilty for, but not many pleasures that I feel guilty over.  But I do have a few…

Each of these I feel a little guilty about because I either feel like I should be at least trying to do something more productive, it cost money and I don’t work, or because I feel like I’m taking advantage of my husband.

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I love spending time on my computer, reading blogs and posting on my blogs.  The computer is sometimes a great escape, and it is often a way for me to communicate with other people.

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I also love that I have more time to read because of my illness.  I can get lost in a book.  They help me escape, and learn.  I will never get tired of learning new things.  I think reading helps to keep my mind active and has lessened my brain fog.  But still I often feel I should be doing something else.

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I love for my husband to massage me.  He is such a great help to me, and I don’t get to pamper him near enough, but I love it when he pampers me.  He takes care of me all the time, but I get so much pleasure from having him rub my neck and back.  Oh and when my hip is giving me a lot of trouble, he is wonderful at trying to make it better.

I also love going to get a professional massage.  I don’t do this very often, and I always feel guilty afterward, because it cost money.  Plus, I feel like if anyone should be getting a massage, it should be my darling husband.  He works so hard, and he treats me so well, he deserves to be pampered.

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I have a secret obsession for shoes, and purses.  I’m trying hard not to buy any new shoes or purses, but it’s so hard.  I try to find them at thrift stores, and I have found a few.  But when I’m looking for something in particular it’s hard.  Don’t get me wrong, I don’t buy a ton of shoes or purses.  I am, however, on a constant search for the perfect purse.  This is very funny coming from me because I used to never carry a purse and was proud of it.  However, now I have to carry an epi pen and an inhaler with me all the time, so I have to carry a purse.  And shoes!  I don’t buy a ton, but I have a weakness for funky tennis shoes, and shoes that look great but are still comfortable.  I don’t give in to this guilty pleasure very often, but I just can’t help myself sometimes.

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I also love to find great make-up and facial products that are made from natural ingredients, are gluten-free, and haven’t been tested on animals.  This is getting easier than it used to be, but it’s very hard to find a product that fits all those categories, that is still affordable, and lives up to what it promises.

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One more I really like having a manicure or pedicure, or even giving one to myself.  I love wild fingernail polish.

I keep thinking of these things that I just love to do, but feel at least a twinge of guilt when I do them.  The question is, should I continue to do them and feel guilty, should I stop, or should I stop feeling guilty about it?

I made a compromise a long time ago, and I think it’s a good thing.  I don’t over indulge in my guilty pleasures, this makes me feel much less guilty.  As much as I love shoes, purses, manicures, polish, massages, and books I don’t buy very many.  I get about 2 new pairs of shoes a year, I average 1 purse a year, 1 mani-pedi a year, and 2-3 massages.  I haven’t bought new polish in a long time, however, I have made new colors by mixing a few together.  I rarely ever buy a book, however, I love my local library!

I think the one guilty pleasure that I have that I probably need to do less, is staying on my computer.  I think I should try to limit it to less than 2 hours per day.

By incorporating these restraints I feel much less guilty about my guilty pleasures.  After all, shouldn’t we all have a few pleasures that make you feel like you are splurging?


3 thoughts on “Guilty Pleasures while having a Chronic Illness

  1. Well, not surprisingly, I think your guilty pleasures are great. 🙂

    I used to work by a mall that had a Payless Shoes. I can’t count the number of times we would go there at lunch and after work to browse or buy.

    I nearly bought a weighted hula hoop today. I bought adjustable ankle weights for strength training and because they will take up little space. They have insertable rods and each ankle weight will go up to 20 pounds. My current ones are 2 1/2 pounds each and really can’t build strength with those.

    Then I started wandering the website. Bad idea for me right now as I’m in buying mode. (Got the new Adele cd and am loving it.) I was thisclose to buying the hula hoop but the ankle weights are CAD $88.00 per ankle weight, not per pair. Maybe another time, I think it would be so much fun.



  2. kieren

    i dont think you should feel guilty about any of these things! Us people with chronic illness work just as hard as anyone else, often harder (we rarely if ever have any respite). And compared to other things you could be doing these things sound quite healthy 🙂


    1. kieren,
      most of my “guilty pleasures” are tongue in cheek. I do feel some guilt over some of them, simply because we need to be on a tight budget with all the doctor bills.
      I get many more massages now…at least once a month, we found I have much less pain with her help.
      I have feel much less guilty about the things I can’t do, and about how much my husband does for me….thank you V my therapist!
      a guilty pleasure….I really don’t have many…and I will say, the guilt is just a tiny amount.
      good days to you


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