Todays post is Sponsored by the letter D.
I always have a difficult time picking just one word to focus on when doing these post.
So I’ve decided to not focus on just one word. I like lots of words and I liked the post about B where we used a lot of different words. Today, we’ll do that again.
The first natural word to think of is:
Disabled – Yes, we are disabled. But what does that word really mean to you? Does it mean you can’t work? that you are crippled? can’t do what you used to? are a different person? (for me I had to admit I wasn’t as independent as I used to be – I was not able to do for myself everything that I needed.)
Dependent – We are more dependent on others and on things to help us do our necessities. We are also more dependent on our wits, to figure out how to do more things a little differently so we can be a little more independent. : )
Dare – We are daring individuals. We have to do daring feats just to live day-to-day. With my disease (and I know many of you have Meniere’s too) we dare to just walk around some days. We could have a drop attack at any moment…but we dare to live the life that was given us, and not worry about what may happen (most of the time, we try hard). We dare to survive.
Denial – Sometimes the first part of having a disability is denial. This can often make it much harder on the person who has the illness. Especially, if it is progressive, if the person is in denial it can end up in disaster. For me, I go back and forth with denial. I want to believe I can do anything if I set my mind to it, I will get on my high horse and start to do this and that…and then I pay for it. And unfortunately I usually hurt my husband at the same time, because he just wants to help and I push him away. Denial can come in cycles. I have to work on acceptance.
Different – So many people I know with a disability are afraid of being different. That has never been a problem with me. I think I’ve always been a little different, so this is just fine with me. So I’m different. People can accept that or not. I think it’s harder for people to understand your disability if you try to act normal and you aren’t, then they think something is wrong and they just don’t know what. I’d rather be up front. “I’m hearing impaired.”, “I have bouts of vertigo.” People may not understand, but they know something is wrong, and I’m not just rude and ignoring what they say, or drunk.
Daffy – Well you knew I had to put a funny in here, and no I don’t mean the duck. You know we all feel a little Daffy some times. We feel like we are going crazy. We have all these weird symptoms. We have doctors trying all sorts of things on us. We think one thing is working…then it isn’t. We don’t know who to believe. And with Meniere’s feeling a little daffy (or crazy) sometimes is actually a symptom! Don’t worry, you aren’t crazy. (Well, you may be, but I’m not the one to diagnose that.) Just know that it is normal to feel that way sometimes.
Demon – Ever feel like you are possessed? Like this isn’t your body any more? Please, don’t tell me that I’m the only one that feels like my body has been taken over by some demon and it is attacking itself. OK…maybe I shouldn’t have mentioned that one.
Dreams – With vestibular disorders it is not unusual for people to have very vivid dreams that wake them up many times during the night. Do you have more dreams now than before? Do you wake up more often? Do you sometimes feel like your whole life is just a dream now and you really wish you would wake up?
Do – We are a bunch of people who do stuff. We still do for other people, we research our illness to find out as much as we can to help ourselves and others. You may feel like you aren’t doing much, if you actually look at what you do, I think you will be surprised at how much you get done. And how much you do for others! We do a lot, but remember, trying counts. So Just try to Do It!
Don’t – Don’t despair. Don’t feel alone. A disability is not a death sentence. Disabled people can be strong people who are DETERMINED to live a full and rich life, with our disability, not despite of it.