This past Saturday was our 12th anniversary. With my husband being my caregiver it is hard to find days where we can find time for just us without my illnesses playing a major part. Saturday was one of those rare days.
Recently I’ve been feeling pretty darn good. I have my days of not feeling well, my balance will be way off, and I’ll topple a lot, but for the most part I haven’t had any major vertigo attacks. That’s huge for me. I had a few days last week where I just didn’t feel good. I was afraid I wouldn’t be able to spend our anniversary out of my recliner. But I was surprised. I woke up feeling good, so we headed out for a day of adventure.
We had a few plans for the day. Stuart asked me what I wanted to eat on our special day and I wanted crab legs. So we found this little restaurant that is on a small lake. I love being close to water. I was such a happy girl when we were sitting there on the water I teared up. After our wonderful lunch we walked around the lake and watched the ducks. We took pictures and just enjoyed ourselves. We then went out of frozen yogurt. The whole day we flirted like teenagers. It was such a good day, but it wasn’t over.
We stayed in a hotel for the night. It had a big whirlpool tub, and was in the ritzy part of town. We decided not to go out for dinner we instead went to Whole Foods and loaded up on the Salad bar and went back to our room. That may not sound romantic but it was so nice to just curl up in bed with my hubby eating salad. 🙂
It was a very romantic day. We had planned to do more on Sunday but we were both exhausted from our anniversary celebration. We came home and just vegged. I slept sooo much. On Monday I was still paying for our little adventure and felt like I was catching a cold, but by Tuesday I was feeling well again. Which was great timing as Stuart had Tuesday off and we decided to go back to the boardwalk and just walk around and watch the ducks. We had ice cream outside enjoying the beautiful weather. It was a very relaxing afternoon. Sometimes even though I know I’ll pay the price later the price is worth it.
It is so very important to take the time to spend as much “us” time with your significant other as you can. My husband is my caregiver. Even when I’m too sick for days like Saturday (and Tuesday), we try to take some time for us. We may curl up and watch a movie together, or have a special dinner, just sit and talk…anything that makes things special. One big thing we do a lot is flirt with each other a lot. I am not able to follow through on a lot of my overtures but it doesn’t matter, he knows I want to. That is what is important. It’s important that even though we can’t be as intimate as we’d like as often as we’d like that we let each other know we’d like to, but it’s okay that we don’t. It’s okay that we just cuddle, that we are with each other, that we are so in love that not being able to have sex as much as we’d like isn’t going to come between us. And it makes those special nights in a hotel all the more special. 😉